Enter my Mother’s Day Beauty Picks giveaway below and my $500 Sephora giveaway on my Instagram!
me:
Dress: LOFT Bouquet Short Sleeve Jumpsuit (00/TTS) – 40% off w/ LOVEMOM!
Shoes: ASOS (old, similar, similar)
Bag: Amazon Gucci dupe crossbody
Mei:
Dress: LOFT Littles Bouquet Jumpsuit (3/4 – runs small) – 40% off w/ LOVEMOM!
Shoes: Nine West Kids ‘Vivien’
shop the entire LOFT Littles collection!
Mei and I wore the twinning polka dot dress outfit here
Hello and happy Mother’s Day! It’s hard to believe that I’m celebrating my 7th year as a mom and without a doubt, it’s been the hardest yet most rewarding undertaking of my life. It’s a job that doesn’t come with a manual, and yet even the tips that well-meaning friends and acquaintances give may not work as each child and situation is definitively unique. Today I wanted to celebrate all the moms out there, as it’s a role where on-the-job learning is taken to the next level. We strive to teach our children every day and yet oftentimes we are the ones learning the biggest lessons. Below are my top 5 lessons that I’ve learned from becoming a mom!
5 Lessons I’ve Learned From Becoming A Mom
1. You can’t plan everything
This is really a lesson that starts at pregnancy. In the past, my Type-A personality always wanted to be prepared 10 steps ahead but the first lesson I learned is that you can’t control everything when it comes to being a mom. From getting pregnant to knowing when you’re going to deliver, there’s so much that is out of your control. As a mom, I’ve learned to let go — to place more trust in my body and in my kids, and even to embrace the uncertainty that that brings!
2. Be prepared to feel like a hot mess
Before kids, I was that person who rarely left the house without makeup on, hair done, and a cute outfit on. Then, after just a couple weeks into being a new mom with Dylan, I realized that if I held myself up to that same standard, I may never get out of the house! Especially in the early years, there were all too many moments where I had gone 2+ days without showering, was wearing clothes with leaked breastmilk on them, and couldn’t even remember the last time that I had actually done my hair. Even now as my kids are older, I’m juggling multiple school/work/ extracurricular schedules, and there are days when it can be overwhelming.
The thing though is that this is the reality of motherhood sometimes — sometimes it does mean you feel like a hot mess and maybe that your life is complete chaos. I’ve become a lot less hard on myself and remember that at the end of the day, as long as my kids are happy, healthy, and well loved, I’ve done a good job.
3. Don’t forget about your marriage
If you’re not careful, kids can easily consume all your attention and this is a mistake that I made early on. Don’t forget to make your marriage a priority and invest in making it a solid foundation from which your family is built upon. It’s easy to not have time by the end of the day and the result is that the parents end up as just two ships passing in the night. Carve out time to reconnect and realize that it will likely look different than how it was before kids. Having kids will oftentimes force a marriage to evolve, but use it as an opportunity for growth and you’ll both come out stronger for it!
4. Everything is a phase, a season, and will pass
I had countless weeks early on as a mom where I felt like I had lost my old life. There was a bit of resentment and frustration even though I did whole-heartedly enjoy the new life of motherhood I was given. The challenges of breastfeeding, night waking, and just figuring out how to take care of this new person were a lot of changes all at once., and part of me thought that this would just become a new normal. Now I’ve realized that while some of that is true, even the toughest moments in motherhood are just a phase. This is a lesson that I’ve even applied to my life outside of kids as sometimes I’m just in a season where I have more challenges than usual. But give it time and even though it can seem like forever while I’m in this season of difficulty, it’ll pass before I know it.
5. Enjoy the moment
And lastly, find beauty in the present. It may be messy, chaotic, and a look nothing like what you imagined but seek out the beauty of the moment. Every age of being a kid has its ups and downs, but I’m a firm believer that the grass is greener where you water it. Cherish the moments of motherhood where you’re at and most importantly, don’t let someone else’s Instagram-perfect picture of motherhood take away the joy you have in your own journey.
me:
Dress: LOFT Bouquet Short Sleeve Jumpsuit (00/TTS) – 40% off w/ LOVEMOM!
Shoes: ASOS (old, similar, similar)
Bag: Amazon Gucci dupe crossbody
Mei:
Dress: LOFT Littles Bouquet Jumpsuit (3/4 – runs small) – 40% off w/ LOVEMOM!
Shoes: Nine West Kids ‘Vivien’
shop the entire LOFT Littles collection!
Mei and I wore the twinning polka dot dress outfit here
I’m sharing a mini giveaway in honor of Mother’s Day with a goodie box filled with some pampering pick-me-up items! Enter through the widget below:
- Voluspa Rose Mini Candle
- OFRA Liquid Lipstick in Miami Fever and Monaco
- LaCura Q10 Day Cream
- SUVA Beauty Protege Palette
- Lorac PRO Liquid Lipstick in Deep Burgundy
- Appeal Liquid Eyeshadow in Gold
- Purity 8oz One-Step Facial Cleanser
photos edited using Dreamy Presets – Millenial Pink (tutorial)
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I think all of the prizes are fantastic! I can’t decide which is my favorite!
I’m really excited about the SUVA Beauty Protege Palette.
I’m excited to try the Purity Made Simple One-Step Facial Cleanser
Happy Mother’s Day to you, pretty mama! Your little one is so very precious and I can’t wait to have one of my own eventually! Until then, animals are my babies!
Would love to win any of these. Tip: They will remember time spent together more than things. Thanks for the opportunity.
I wouldn’t mind winning the OFRA Liquid Lipstick in Miami Fever and Monaco they look like lovely colors.
I am a mom, and the only tip I have is try to go with the flow. Kids are going to test you and push your buttons each and every day.
Thank you for sharing your life lessons as a mom. I am definitely taking notes since I’m sure it will come in handy for me one day!
http://www.rdsobsessions.com
Aww what a sweet post! I love all of these lessons. Definitely saving this for when we start a family 🙂 Happy Mother’s Day!
Really cute post, I loved reading from your perspective 🙂
Anika | anikamay.co.uk
What a sweet post!! Love your matching outfits!
Just enjoy every minute, every hug, every kiss, every minute you have with your little girl. They grow up so fast.
These are some great pieces of advice for mom’s and mom’s to be. Thank you!
Whenever I think of something to give to my mothers, I always think they have everything. My go to is a beautiful assortment of flowers. Even when the mother is law says she does not need them, they always add a colorful addition to any room.
have been following your blog since before you had kids. So great to see your journey this far. Love the jumpsuit.
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I hope you had a great Mother’s Day! I just love those outfits!!!
My best advice is an oldie but a goodie, don’t stress the small stuff.
Great post! I hope you had a great Mother’s Day. I can relate to this post so much. Especially with not being able to plan anything!
Great post! I’m not a mom, but I can see your point. Love the eye palette in the giveaway.
Candace Hampton
http://www.thebeautybeau.com
beautiful lessons and beautiful photos <3
These are so good to know. We don’t have kids yet, so this is perfect.
Thank you so much for sharing! This was an absolutely beautiful and transparent post & you and your daughter look stunning! Xo
I would love to win the Purity Facial Cleanser.
OH you two are so cute!
x Lisa | lisaautumn.com
#4 really sits with me because I totally agree. I sometimes have to remind myself to enjoy each phase and not be constantly thinking about getting out of it and onto the next. They grow up so quickly! I can’t believe I have a running toddler now!
How sweet is this post?! I love that you love being a mom so much, and your wisdom is so helpful for everyone to read through. 7 years gives you some serious experience, that’s for sure!
these photos are absolutely ADORABLE and such great tips to keep in mind for the future 🙂
xx rebecca // http://www.rebeccapiersol.me
This is so so precious.
I hope you had a great mother’s day!!
I’d love to win the SUVA Beauty Protege Palette.
I would like to win the OFRA Liquid Lipstick in Miami Fever and Monaco. the colors look pretty.
I would like to try the La Cura Day Cream.
I can’t wait to be a Mom! I love your matching jumpsuits!
be there for your kids always!
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What a gorgeous mommy and me look! Love your matching smiles. Hugs, Kait Elizabeth
This is absolutely adorable. Making me wish I had a girl. Got blessed with 2 boys lol.
Such beautiful pieces. Very nice.
My advice is not to sweat the small stuff and to appreciate every moment!
Everything looks great!
I’d love to win the facial cleanser! I’m also a Mom, but my kids are older.
I want to try the Purity 8oz One-Step Facial Cleanser.
NOT a mother just aunt, great aunt and great great aunt
All are products I would like to have but if I had to pick LaCura Q10 Day Cream
I love the colors in the SUVA Beauty Protege Palette.
my tip is dont be afraid to ask for help.
I am excited about the purity prize
Such a great post with fantastic advice for all moms!
I wish i did have great tips just get enough sleep .
These are all great lessons to learn as a mom! I love your tip about not forgetting your marriage! I think that’s so important!
xo, Laura
Absolutely love these mommy and me pics! You two look so cute!