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Hello and happy Mother’s Day! It’s hard to believe that I’m celebrating my 7th year as a mom and without a doubt, it’s been the hardest yet most rewarding undertaking of my life. It’s a job that doesn’t come with a manual, and yet even the tips that well-meaning friends and acquaintances give may not work as each child and situation is definitively unique. Today I wanted to celebrate all the moms out there, as it’s a role where on-the-job learning is taken to the next level. We strive to teach our children every day and yet oftentimes we are the ones learning the biggest lessons. Below are my top 5 lessons that I’ve learned from becoming a mom!
5 Lessons I’ve Learned From Becoming A Mom
1. You can’t plan everything
This is really a lesson that starts at pregnancy. In the past, my Type-A personality always wanted to be prepared 10 steps ahead but the first lesson I learned is that you can’t control everything when it comes to being a mom. From getting pregnant to knowing when you’re going to deliver, there’s so much that is out of your control. As a mom, I’ve learned to let go — to place more trust in my body and in my kids, and even to embrace the uncertainty that that brings!
2. Be prepared to feel like a hot mess
Before kids, I was that person who rarely left the house without makeup on, hair done, and a cute outfit on. Then, after just a couple weeks into being a new mom with Dylan, I realized that if I held myself up to that same standard, I may never get out of the house! Especially in the early years, there were all too many moments where I had gone 2+ days without showering, was wearing clothes with leaked breastmilk on them, and couldn’t even remember the last time that I had actually done my hair. Even now as my kids are older, I’m juggling multiple school/work/ extracurricular schedules, and there are days when it can be overwhelming.
The thing though is that this is the reality of motherhood sometimes — sometimes it does mean you feel like a hot mess and maybe that your life is complete chaos. I’ve become a lot less hard on myself and remember that at the end of the day, as long as my kids are happy, healthy, and well loved, I’ve done a good job.
3. Don’t forget about your marriage
If you’re not careful, kids can easily consume all your attention and this is a mistake that I made early on. Don’t forget to make your marriage a priority and invest in making it a solid foundation from which your family is built upon. It’s easy to not have time by the end of the day and the result is that the parents end up as just two ships passing in the night. Carve out time to reconnect and realize that it will likely look different than how it was before kids. Having kids will oftentimes force a marriage to evolve, but use it as an opportunity for growth and you’ll both come out stronger for it!
4. Everything is a phase, a season, and will pass
I had countless weeks early on as a mom where I felt like I had lost my old life. There was a bit of resentment and frustration even though I did whole-heartedly enjoy the new life of motherhood I was given. The challenges of breastfeeding, night waking, and just figuring out how to take care of this new person were a lot of changes all at once., and part of me thought that this would just become a new normal. Now I’ve realized that while some of that is true, even the toughest moments in motherhood are just a phase. This is a lesson that I’ve even applied to my life outside of kids as sometimes I’m just in a season where I have more challenges than usual. But give it time and even though it can seem like forever while I’m in this season of difficulty, it’ll pass before I know it.
5. Enjoy the moment
And lastly, find beauty in the present. It may be messy, chaotic, and a look nothing like what you imagined but seek out the beauty of the moment. Every age of being a kid has its ups and downs, but I’m a firm believer that the grass is greener where you water it. Cherish the moments of motherhood where you’re at and most importantly, don’t let someone else’s Instagram-perfect picture of motherhood take away the joy you have in your own journey.
I’m sharing a mini giveaway in honor of Mother’s Day with a goodie box filled with some pampering pick-me-up items! Enter through the widget below:
- Voluspa Rose Mini Candle
- OFRA Liquid Lipstick in Miami Fever and Monaco
- LaCura Q10 Day Cream
- SUVA Beauty Protege Palette
- Lorac PRO Liquid Lipstick in Deep Burgundy
- Appeal Liquid Eyeshadow in Gold
- Purity 8oz One-Step Facial Cleanser
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